NLP for communication: how it can help your searching for love and/or your relationship

Many arguments and relationship and marriage problems are caused by communication failures.  Communication is not just about how one speaks to the other, but it's a collection of verbal and non-verbal clues we give to our partner 24 hours a day, which can make or break our relationship'

Does it seem as if you and your partner/spouse are at times speaking in different languages?  Are you hitting a brick wall and is your communication with him/her degenerating?  Or, does it seem as if you are becoming two different people?  Are you finding it increasingly difficult to understand him/her?  If this is the case, NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming (the study of the language of the mind), can definitely help you.  

NLP can also help you if you need to rekindle the spark, but we'll deal with this issue in another section, which will be added in a few days.  Feel free to contact me directly if you need information on this now.

NLP can also help you if you are still searching for love, and indeed,  in life in general.  In this section I will be focusing on how Neuro Linguistic Programming can improve your love search and, indeed, how NLP can help your relationship.  

To simplify this aspect of NLP, I'll go straight to some practical mind shifting thoughts which are often described as 'rules' or 'master beliefs', which one must always bear in mind, according to NLP:

THE MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY. 

Everything we see and experience of the world out there is through our mind, our own 'filter'.  Since no mind is exactly the same, the filter is always a little different.  So, if we use a geographical analogy, the world (the territory) that we experience, see, represent, think of, feel, is filtered through our mind which creates a map of it.  But, like every map in the world, it is not the territory itself but rather a representation of it. 

So, the best way to walk through the world (or love, or your own marriage or relationship) is not that of treating your own map as if it's a fact, especially when this map is proving to be hindering you or your relationship. 

For example, if you are searching for love but are overweight, and your belief is that 'nobody likes to marry an overweight person', you should remember that this is not a fact but only a representation in your mind (a map) and not the reality (the world), not a 'fact'.  Moreover, and this is avery important point in NLP, if you walked around the world with the map that 'nobody likes to marry an overweight person' which, as you know, is not reality but only your own representation of it, you will navigate through the world with a handicap ( = the belief that nobody wants to marry you because you are overweight), with a faulty mental map.   

The same can be said for relationship communication problems: if you think that, for example, your husband or wife does not find you attractive anymore (and you think this without any real evidence nor verbal confirmation from your spouse), you'd be advised to remember that this is to a 'fact' (the territory) but rather your own representation (a map) of a series of experiences; your spouse may indeed be acting in certain ways (which you think prove that he does not find your attractive anymore) but for entirely different reasons. 

So, in essence, if the map is not the territory, wouldn't it best to learn to adopt a map (concepts, beliefs, thoughts) that is indeed much more useful to your love search or your relationship?  Absolutely!  Indeed, NLP experts (and others) state that the most successful people in all aspects of life, including love and relationships, have adopted (through chance or learning) useful maps.  In the first example, therefore, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) teaches you to adopt a useful map such as 'there are definitely people who can fall in love with overweight individuals' and, in the second example, a map which states that 'my spouse has always found me attractive so he/she may be going through some difficulties that have nothing to do with me or I may be acting in a way that puts a barrier between us'.  

This NLP section is going to be expanded in the future.  You can read more on my second page on NLP 'Master Beliefs' by clicking here.  There is a lot of material on NLP out there which can be a bit overwhelming.  My objective here is to make NLP as approachable and as practical as possible to your searching for love (or to your current good, or 'bad' relationship, or applicable and useful when you are falling in love, so my pages on this will be - hopefully - a little easier to read!  But feel free to contact me and ask me about this complicated subject. 

Next NLP Master belief:  click here.  

♥ Want to rekindle that 'in-love' feeling with your partner?  Click here .

 

♥ Do you and your partner argue a lot?  Find solutions on this page.

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