Why Does He Not Call? Why Does He Not Call Back? Find Out Why and What to Do About It  

Has he stopped calling you or is he calling less often than he used to?  Or is he not replying as quickly as he used to?  This is what’s going on and what you can do about it. 

Have you just given a guy your number and you're counting the minutes, checking your phone more often than you can count just in case you miss his call? Or, are you dating someone and you feel that he's not communicating with you as often as he used to or as you would like?

We have all lived those dreaded moments. But what does it mean? Why is this happening? Why does the phone not ring? 

Unless you are objectively unreasonable and expect him to phone you a ridiculous number of times (I hope you are interested in a man who has a job and therefore a life outside of you!), there is always a reason why a guy is either not phoning/texting you or not returning your call/text. Even if he used to be all over you by email, text, phone or any other way, the reason is the same: 

He Has Lost Interest In You. I know it's ridiculous, but men (especially immature ones) often act because they are 'excited', enthusiastic about a girl or woman and during that time they will behave as love-sick puppies or just do everything they can think of to impress you. I hope you realise that this is not because they love you. It's because they're excited about the conquest. You are someone to be conquered, seduced, and this makes them feel fabulous. 

If you make the mistake of showing your interest too soon or, even worse, demand commitment before he's had time to properly fall in love with you, he'll quickly lose interest. Plain and simple. 

The worst thing you can do is start calling him either angry because he's not called you back or seductively. If you're angry he'll definitely lose interest for good (he'll think you're too possessive or just too desperate); if you're offering sex or trying to 'woe' him by being overly nice he'll label you as either too easy or as desperate (both terrible labels!). 

So, what to do? 

1 - Do not phone (or text) him back. Ignore him. It's tough to do but it's essential. You must regain the interest, the mystique he initially had for you. You must become interesting again. So, how do you do that? 

2 - Resume your life and pretend he does not exist. See friends, do things you love doing, go to the gym (don't try and make him jealous because that will be perceived as either pathetic or 'sluttish' by him). 

3 - When he finally phones you, as he will, you can even pretend you're out or busy and not pick up. Let him phone you a second time. If it's too hard for you to do this you can pick up but pretend you haven't even noticed that he hasn't phoned. He'll wonder what you have been doing and you'll become more interesting to him again (so don't tell him all the details, keep some to yourself and maintain the mystery). 

The less he calls you, the less you call him. This technique will help you entice him but also determine, in the long run, what kind of guy he really is. And you must find out before you invest any more of your feelings in him, otherwise your heart will be broken. During your dating experience with him, you must often analyse the situation to check for sign he loves you so that you can decide your next step. 

Whenever you find yourself that he's losing interest, FOCUS ON YOURSELF and you'll either see a change his behaviour for the better or a clear sign that he's not a guy worth anymore of your time.