Online Dating:  How to Make it Work    

But, it can be a viable tool on our path to searching for love, provided it does not become our only way to meet potential romantic dates. I used it, several times. I have never met my soulmate through it, but I did meet someone who's become a very close, wonderful friend to me now on a daily basis.

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The best online dating sites:  

The best dating sites are, in my opinion, those who offer large pictures of candidates and potentially long profiles (ideally, in my opinion, those descriptions that the candidates write themselves - I am not a fan of check lists, I find them quite distorting and overall useless). Sure, you want to know if someone is a hunter or not if you are against hunting, or if someone is a smoker if you can't tolerate smoke, but a check list of favorite colour/s, favorite drink, etc is absolutely useless. Who cares what your potential partner's favourite colour is? You want to care about how you 2 are with each other, how you love each other, how you help each other flourish, how you comfort each other etc, not if his/her favourite colour is blue or yellow! Ok, this is perhaps an extreme example, but I hope you catch my drift!

Ultimately, are you searching for love or dating which reveals to be a waste of time? Isn't your time precious?

At the same time, I dislike dating sites which give you very little freedom. Those where you answer questionnaires which never seem to end only to decide for you which person is a good match or not.

Don't be lazy!  Your time will be wasted much more significantly along the line if you don't exercise your own judgement!

Worse still, sometimes you go through an endless series of questions and answers (all controlled by the dating site) before you even see the face of the person you are interrogating and are interrogated by. Yes, you 've guessed it. Such lack of control is not for me, since I believe my judgement is quite healthy and 'wise', especially nowadays; I therefore want to be the one choosing my potential mates and to formulate the questions. Above all, I want to see the photos immediately. I realize that we shouldn't pick someone just because they look good (that would be a huge mistake), but, at the same time, we cannot fool ourselves that, just because there is a match according to some website, we're going to have a long-term relationship with someone who is absolutely not attractive to us, not even slightly. Again, it's a waste of time, in my opinion, if one does not have full control of the online dating process.

That is why I choose sites where the profile includes long descriptions written by the candidate himself. I want to see how open they are (openness is a very important characteristic to be sought in a long-term partner), if they can communicate their feelings, hopes, fears to me.