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Bad Boys Get all the Girls...

Do Bad Boys get all the girls?  Do girls prefer bad boys?  This is what really happens. 

So many guys go crazy about this. They think they're doing all the right things, saying all the right things, and yet most girls keep telling them 'how nice they are but they want to stay just friends'. It's frustrating, isn't it?

Is it true? I'm not going to lie to you. To some extent it's true, especially if the girl or woman is quite naive about love (and this can happen at any age). But wait for it, there's a twist in the end J. But first of all, the cliche is actually rather true for some girls because: 

1 - Being with a wild boy, by association, makes the girl feel more excited in general and therefore she feels more excited about herself. Being with those boys brings the 'bad girls' out of them, in a way, and this makes them feel as if they've broken away from the constrictions that society has placed on them. It's all a fallacy, of course, but that's what's being triggered psychologically. To some girls it's just about avoiding being bored with themselves and life. Of course, the real answer would be for the girls to find passion and excitement by themselves in their own lives so that they would not seek a guy to bring it to them. It'd be a much better way to live love and life. But, as we know, not everybody has been to a good therapist for a long period of time and reflected about oneself and life! 

2 - Some women are attracted to those seen as a 'challenge', some kind of project they can take on. Those girls think that they'll turn the wild boy around this time, because their love is special. It's actually some form of dependency based on some emptiness those girls have inside. 

3 - Some girls like bad boys because, deep down, they don't want to commit to a really loving, committed relationship. It may all be subconscious, but it happens. 

4 - Finally, it may just be that some girls prefer a complicated guy because their life path together may be more interesting. Working harder in a relationship also means working harder with ourselves. This last category is probably the most acceptable and the one you could be working towards. Sometimes we try to be 'easy' to a point that we're no longer ourselves; we've buried our passions, our idiosyncrasies, our fears, our dreams so deep down in ourselves that all we have left on the surface is this 'flat' human being walking around and living life in a discouragingly predictable manner, without passion nor excitement. By that I don't mean you must turn to sex, drugs and rock and roll: in fact, as I mentioned above, women who tend to go for truly 'bad boys' have serious psychological issues they could probably address for their own benefit; this because the greatest majority of the time those bad boys will not be able to love them as much as they'd want to be loved, starting a vicious cycle of pain, dependency and psychological addiction. 

But what you could do, as a first major step to become one thousand times more attractive to girls and women, is to find your real self, let it out regardless of what others may think, be true to yourself, resume your passions, dreams and desires, and live them every day. You will see how you will metamorphose into really interesting guy who will attract a much larger number of women. And, because you didn't turn into a 'jerk', you will actually attract emotionally more balanced girls rather than those seeking to fill a void.

Last but not least, if you want to play a little with girls, learn a few tricks which will make girls notice you, part of the BODY LANGUAGE OF ATTRACTION. 

Then, of course, before you give your heart to a girl, make sure she's showing all the SIGNS SHE'S INTO YOU. Then, you work will be done!