How to attract men and make them fall in love:  the only sure way to do so with long-term success  

You must have read about one thousand ways to attract men, guys and boys. If you are confused and perplexed, unsure of what to do or even unsure about yourself and your capacity to be attractive, all you need to know and do is this:

I have seen many girls (and women) every week who have more and more in common, from looks to mindset.I sometimes have difficulty telling them apart, but they do have one thing in common: they are all struggling to be the ‘love magnets’ they aspire to be, the most attractive girls or women they can possibly be. Yet, I look at them and I see where they fail and will continue to fail. 

Whilst it is true that beautiful legs will always be attractive, that beautiful skin or a harmonious figure will always be pleasing to the eye, it is also true that girls and women are trying to conform so much to some ‘ideal’ (mostly skewed) type of beauty that, at best, they all look like dolls. Now, let’s think about this for a minute:  are you trying to attract a man or guy who will find you (and another hundred girls looking like you) attractive and for that reason he’ll choose to be with you? Do you think that that standardized look is what will ‘hook’ a guy to you? Think again. 

If a guy finds you attractive because you have that standardized, Hollywood-model type look, it may be a successful strategy in the short-run (after all, every guy likes to try a Barbie doll at all ages) but, sooner or later, will make you insecure and render you highly unsuccessful.  Why?  Because:  

1 – As he finds you attractive for that standardized Hollywood-model-type look, he will find another thousand girls attractive. If this is your ‘hook’, he’ll leave you sooner or later, even for a ‘younger’ model (at some point in your relationship).

2 – Finding you attractive is very different from him falling in love with you.  Many men need to believe that the girl they have found is one in a million and, if you don’t look nor act like one, he will think he’s got a girl that he can ‘substitute’ at any time.  If you are truly unique in his eyes, it will be much easier for him to fall in love with you, stay in love with you and continue to love you as the years go by.   

It is a tragedy, in my experience and thought, that whilst desperately trying to be ‘pleasing to the eye’ to potential mates, girls and women fail to fulfill their own identities thus becoming “plain Jane’s” in so many other ways, rendering themselves vulnerable to low self-esteem issues and a plethora of psychological pitfalls.

So, to be attractive to men in a really significant, long-lasting way, you need to find what makes you unique. Being unique is essential; despite that peer pressure would tend us to have us all conform, finding our identity in every way and ‘showing it off’ to the world is key to finding admiration, love from the people we want in our lives for the long-run. This translates even in a physical sense. Why would everybody want one’s hair a certain length, a certain texture, a certain color, when your beauty lies in a different style which is only suitable for you and which highlights your real beauty? You will be surprised at how much love you can inspire others (and men) to give you when you begin to show your uniqueness.

I very recently spent time in Eastern Europe, a place ‘famous’ for beautiful women.  I was actually surprised at how beautiful the women are there, and I understood why so many men found them highly attractive. What I immediately noticed about them is that they looked more ‘natural’ than our Western counterparts. Their beauty was not surgically enhanced or cosmetically ‘highlighted’; they were just beautiful, in a natural way.  What struck me even more is that they behaved as if they knew that they were beautiful, they showed parts of their body a Western woman may be unsure about (because too small, or too flat, or too ‘something’), and that made them very sensual. This brings me back to my original point:  being sensual is something we have lost in a fruitless quest to become ‘standardized’; yet, sensuality comes from being totally in touch with one’s femininity and one’s true identity. 

In therapy, whether you suffer from low self-esteem or from a string of ‘unlucky’ relationship, or from a long period without any meaningful relationship, we are taught, first and foremost, to get in touch with who we really are.  We are encouraged to find our dreams, our true self, what we were like before all the brainwashing or traumas or media influences; we are encouraged to go back to when we were happy and full of life and energy.  After a relatively short period of time with this type of therapy, we ‘flourish’ again and begin to be who were really meant to be from the beginning, the beautiful, attractive women we can be uniquely, with the capacity to attract desirable men who will madly fall in love with us.

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